Top 4 Tips To Meeting Mr. Right Online 2012 is off to a great start (right?) and now we get some great tips on finding Mr. Right online by Dr Levy, a college professor and expert in gender based studies. Read on for the top 4 tips and for more, visi Dr. Levy online at www.patricialeavy.com.  1. Take control. Instead of waiting to see who emails you, go through profiles on your own and take the lead in contacting men you’re interested in learning more about. Don’t be passive in your own life, take control—make your own luck instead of waiting to “be lucky.” 2.Use value-based search criteria. When sorting through all the men in a 30-mile radius make sure to use value-based search criteria. Think about the kinds of things that make a true partnership over the long-haul such common interests and beliefs. What is important to you: politics, religion, education, etc.? If their sense of humor comes through their profile and tickles your funny bone that’s always a plus. 3. Profile pictures aren’t important. We all know that attraction is actually the result of many factors—physical appearance, chemistry, and personality all come to bear. Yet by using profile pictures as a way to narrow down your list you are assuming attraction is based on physical appearance alone. You may wind up missing out on someone you could be really interested in. The only thing you can even begin to tell is whether or not he seems to have “kind eyes”—which is exactly what I thought about my then-future husband when I saw his picture. 4. Overlook the unimportant stuff and focus on the big picture. Once you’ve developed your short list and you’re starting to date make sure to keep some perspective. It’s easy to get distracted by the small-stuff, like an odd eating habit or strange laugh, but these things are trivial. Focus on what really matters. Ask yourself the following: Does he seem like a good person? Does he strike you as genuine? Are you authentic when you are with him? Do you have good conversation? Can you envision having fun together? How do you feel when you’re with him? What does he bring out in you? Remember happiness is a choice. Healthy relationships are based on the principles of partnership, not power, and they require two people who have self-respect so that they are able to respect and support another. Happy dating! By Patricia Leavy, PhD Patricia Leavy, PhD, is an acclaimed pop-feminist author and expert commentator as well as a leading qualitative and arts-based researcher. She is also the author of the new book, Low-Fat Love. For additional information visit: www.patricialeavy.com

Top 4 Tips To Meeting Mr. Right Online

2012 is off to a great start (right?) and now we get some great tips on finding Mr. Right online by Dr Levy, a college professor and expert in gender based studies. Read on for the top 4 tips and for more, visi Dr. Levy online at www.patricialeavy.com.

 1. Take control. Instead of waiting to see who emails you, go through profiles on your own and take the lead in contacting men you’re interested in learning more about. Don’t be passive in your own life, take control—make your own luck instead of waiting to “be lucky.”

2.Use value-based search criteria. When sorting through all the men in a 30-mile radius make sure to use value-based search criteria. Think about the kinds of things that make a true partnership over the long-haul such common interests and beliefs. What is important to you: politics, religion, education, etc.? If their sense of humor comes through their profile and tickles your funny bone that’s always a plus.

3. Profile pictures aren’t important. We all know that attraction is actually the result of many factors—physical appearance, chemistry, and personality all come to bear. Yet by using profile pictures as a way to narrow down your list you are assuming attraction is based on physical appearance alone. You may wind up missing out on someone you could be really interested in. The only thing you can even begin to tell is whether or not he seems to have “kind eyes”—which is exactly what I thought about my then-future husband when I saw his picture.

4. Overlook the unimportant stuff and focus on the big picture. Once you’ve developed your short list and you’re starting to date make sure to keep some perspective. It’s easy to get distracted by the small-stuff, like an odd eating habit or strange laugh, but these things are trivial. Focus on what really matters. Ask yourself the following: Does he seem like a good person? Does he strike you as genuine? Are you authentic when you are with him? Do you have good conversation? Can you envision having fun together? How do you feel when you’re with him? What does he bring out in you?

Remember happiness is a choice. Healthy relationships are based on the principles of partnership, not power, and they require two people who have self-respect so that they are able to respect and support another. Happy dating!

By Patricia Leavy, PhD

Patricia Leavy, PhD, is an acclaimed pop-feminist author and expert commentator as well as a leading qualitative and arts-based researcher. She is also the author of the new book, Low-Fat Love. For additional information visit: www.patricialeavy.com

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